Body Shaming, pasti kita udah ga asing lagi dengan kata ini. Body shaming adalah kegiatan mengkritik dan mengomentari secara negatif fisik tubuh diri sendiri maupun orang lain
Ternyata, tanpa kita sadari kita juga biasa melakukan body shaming dalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Entah antar perempuan dengan perempuan lainnya sampai kepada lawan jenis
Sering kali berkomentar negatif terhadap diri sendiri
"ih aku gendut banget sih, beda sama dia blablabla..." setiap berkaca seringnya mengomentari kekurangan fisik sendiri, jarang bersyukurnya
Ada juga orang lain yang mengomentari fisik orang yang lainnya walau tanpa disengaja
"eh, tadi aku ketemu dia, sekarang dia gendut banget loh!" atau bahkan dengan alasan becanda "itu pipi atau bakpao?!" Padahal Allah menciptakan semua manusia dalam sebaik-baiknya bentuk, "Sesungguhnya Kami telah menciptakan manusia dalam bentuk yang sebaik-baiknya." (QS. At-Tiin: 4)
Dan Allah melarang kita untuk mengolok-olok orang lain, “Hai orang-orang yang beriman, janganlah suatu kaum mengolok-olokkan kaum yang lain, (karena) boleh jadi mereka (yang diolok-olokkan) LEBIH BAIK dari mereka (yang mengolok-olokkan), dan jangan pula wanita-wanita (mengolok-olokkan) wanita lain (karena) boleh jadi wanita-wanita (yang diperolok-olokkan) LEBIH BAIK dari wanita (yang mengolok-olokkan) dan janganlah kamu mencela dirimu sendiri dan janganlah kamu panggil memanggil dengan GELAR-GELAR YANG BURUK. Seburuk-buruk panggilan ialah (panggilan) yang buruk sesudah iman dan barangsiapa yang tidak bertaubat, maka mereka itulah orang-orang yang zhalim.” (Al-Hujurat: 11)
Begitupun Rasulullah, beliau pun membenci body shaming
‘Aisyah pernah merasa sangat cemburu terhadap Shafiyah. Shafiyah ini bertubuh pendek, ‘Aisyah lalu menghina dengan isyarat, bahkan sebatas isyarat pun, Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam melarangnya, Dari ‘Aisyah radhiyallahu ‘anha
beliau berkata, "Aku pernah berkata kepada Nabi Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam “Cukup bagimu dari Shafiyah “INI dan ITU”. Sebagian rawi berkata, ”Aisyah mengatakan Shafiyah pendek”.
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19,12625422 January, 2019
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6402323 January, 2019
Dear, setiap manusia memang memiliki kelebihan dan kekurangan
Tapi sekalipun yang kita punya adalah kelebihan, tak ada artinya di hadapan-Nya kecuali jika itu menjadikan kita lebih taat kepada-Nya
Mereka yang mencintaimu tak akan hanya memandang fisikmu, bisa jadi mereka mencintaimu karena keramahanmu, keshalihah-anmu atau mungkin karena kedermawananmu
Jangan hanya fokus dengan kekurangan yang ada pada dirimu, tapi fokuslah kembangkan potensi dan kelebihanmu. Karena Allah menciptakanmu dengan sebaik-baiknya rupa
Juga jangan mengurusi, mengomentari bahkan sampai mengolok-olok kekurangan orang lain
Perlakukanlah orang lain sebagaimana kamu ingin diperlakukan
“Barangsiapa ingin dijauhkan dari neraka dan masuk ke dalam surga, hendaknya ketika ia mati dalam keadaan beriman kepada Allah, dan hendaknya ia berperilaku kepada orang lain sebagaimana ia senang diperlakukan oleh orang lain.” (HR. Muslim, no. 1844)
I was working on some blog content and saw two comments on our fertility post about me being “underweight” and “starving my body” and it reminded me that the “too skinny” conversation needs to be had again. I went on a long rant on insta stories about this but with over 400 replies in 2 hours of women going through similar situations and being shamed since they were kids I realized this is a bigger conversation that needs to be had. I know a lot of people don’t even mean anything hurtful by it, because being skinny can’t be bad right? But having people call you chicken legs, or telling you to go eat a burger, or just assuming you have an eating disorder. They all hurt as much as being called overweight. And now so many girls are messaging me saying they don’t feel pretty because guys tell them they are ugly for not having curves or not “thick”. Or moms saying their kids come home teased about being skinny and they don’t understand how to fix it. Or family asking them to watch what their kids eat cause they bet their daughter has an eating disorder. At any end of the spectrum body shaming hurts. We’ve made so many strides in excepting bodies of all shapes and sizes but this also goes for the little girls. We just need to continue to educate and have the conversation that all shapes and sizes are beautiful! Lets continue empowering women to feel more beautiful for who they are the WAY they are. #bodypositive
Left Me: unhappy, constantly thinking about what I can and can't eat, thinking about losing more weight, and when I will exercise next. My mental health was extremely bad
Right Me: happier, eat when I want, exercise when I want and not feeling pressurised by myself or society on what I should look like. My mental health is also in a much better place.
Self love is a long process... and it comes hand in hand with your mental health. Your mental being is so important.
I have come a long way in this journey. Lots of real tough times, but it has all been worth it. I still have a long way to go, and honestly I don't think it ever reaches a point where that's it and you never have a bad opinion about yourself. The way society is and how we have all been brought up to think one way, it's difficult to completely overcome that way of thinking, which is at no fault of our own.
But we need to be stronger and fight back towards society and break away from what's expected of us.
It's ok to not be what society expects of you. It's ok to love yourself just the way you are. You don't need to be doing anything to try and change the way you are. You are perfect just as you are ❤
Everyone has their own journey and paths and this one is mine.
I am at my heaviest and happiest. And right now I wouldn't change that for the world
#zoliskin Words can sting, Words can also paralyse. Words and especially those aimed at your body, can stunt your career growth. As a dermatologist, I've seen many a bright student become dull through criticism.
In an effort to redeem the situation my career counselor friend and I recently decided to come together and start a series of school workshops on *'Breaking Body Image Barrier: Your Career Breakthrough'*. Let's not let anxieties over appearance stop the best of students from achieving their goals!
We believe that no student should be held back from reaching their full potential. However, low body confidence, anxieties over appearance and lack of proper direction and goal in life stops even the best of students in utilising their skill set to achieve their desired goals.
Through your help and our efforts we would want to reach out to as many students as we can to help them have a more positive relationship with themselves and make the right career choices for themselves.
We want to make beauty as a source of confidence, not anxiety.
Het leuke aan zelfliefde is dat je het helemaal zelf in de hand hebt. Je hebt geen enkele andere persoon nodig om in te zien hoe fantastisch jij bent. Het is compleet aan jou hoe je dit leven doorgaat. Jouw verantwoordelijkheid en jouw verdienste. Dat is het mooie aan dit leven. Het is jouw leve en je mag het leven op jouw manier. En kies ervoor van jezelf te houden. Om jezelf op 1 te zetten. Dat ben je waard. Dat weet je zelf. Jij bent de belangrijkste persoon in jouw leven. Jij bent jouw eerste verantwoordelijkheid. Zorg goed voor jou.
Zo. En ga nu vanuit dat gevoel de dag in en je zult zien dat je zoveel beter in staat bent om er ook voor anderen te zijn. ♥️
1112 hours ago
But how many times can a person silently break before the loud, final shatter?
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This was my outfit friday. Friday night my mom asked me to pick her up from a friends house and of course being the amazing 🤣 daughter I am I said I would. I havent seen this family friend in quite sometime. So she hasnt really seen how much progress I have made with my weightloss since starting keto last april.
Well to my surprise it wasnt a nice visit at all. She told me literally the minute I walked in the door I was to "skinny" and looking as if I was becoming really unhealthy and needed to stop keto right away. She continued to tell me to stop depriving myself of the "good" food and eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. I asked what she thought was good food and she just continued to say that she was just trying to look out for my best interest.
What would make someone think that putting down my body weather it be to "skinny" or "fat" is in my best interest anyway. I am within my healthy weight range. On average I weight anywhere from 140 to 145 pounds. Not to "skinny" or "heavy" for my height of 5'7. Actually its an average weight.
Now lets all remeber this happened friday night and its now tuesday. These words seriously hurt my feelings. I have looked in the mirror a 100 times and asked my poor family 1000 times if maybe she was right. There response always is you look amazing whatever size you are.😢 But one mean word or sentence seems to be over shadowing the thousands of nice ones.
Please everyone lets remember to be kind and watch how we actually speak to one another. A couple stupid sentences have me debating how amazing I feel in my own skin and the way keto makes me feel. (Which is all honesty is AMAZING)
Dulu waktu bayi aku gendut, tapi banyak yg blg badanku besar tapi aku gak bisa ngapa"in. Aku bisa ngerasain apa yang mamaku rasain, aku tunjukin ke mama kalo aku bisa! Umurku 4bulan aku bisa tengkurep sendiri aku mulai gak bisa diem, 5 bulan aku udh bisa posisi merangkak (tp baru kayak kodok) 5 bulan lebih seminggu aku bisa duduk sendiri. Aku bisa ngelakuin semua itu dibantu mama (ya cuma mama) pertumbuhanku tumbuh sesuai usiaku bahkan aku lebih cpt dr tmn" seusiaku. Skrg akupun tau banyak hal, bicaraku juga udh lumayan lancar & jelas. Aku anak yang super aktif, apalagi semenjak bs jalan berat badanku susah naik, naikpun sedikit. Tapi kata dokter berat badanku masih normal yg penting gizi ku cukup aku aktif aku sehat. Aku gendut salah aku kurus salah, apa yg kalian mau dr aku? Aku kadang makan banyak makan jajan banyak susu banyak tp badanku segini" aja mamaku udh kasi yg terbaik buat aku, ya liat aja mama sama ajik wajar aku anaknya kecil juga. MAAF YA yg tau aku yg setiap saat sama aku yg ngerawat aku itu mama, apa yg kalian tau dr aku? Gak tau kan gmn susahnya ngerawat aku, jadi tolong kata"/omongan apapun yg mau kalian keluarin tolong pikir lagi, kalian jauh lebih besar dr aku bahkan org" berpendidikan. Tunjukin apa yg keluar dr mulut kalian itu mencerminkan org yg berpendidikan. Mau aku gendut mau aku kurus apa masalahnya buat kalian? Gak ikut ngerawat aku jg kan? Kalo gak suka ya jangan ngeliat aku kan gak repot😊 #stopbodyshaming kalo sayang aku dan gak bisa bantu mama ngerawat aku mending support aja dari pada marah atau ngomong yg bikin kita sakit hati dan gak bisa ngerubah aku. Salam sayang😘
315 hours ago
Being overweight is hard.
Being healthy is hard.
Being busy is hard.
Finding time to get it all done is hard.
Everything is hard - it’s just a part of life.
BUT- If I could go back and talk to the me two years ago, I’d tell her to persevere. I’d tell her it was going to get better. I’d tell her to enjoy life instead of stressing over EVERY SINGLE thing!
It’s hard- it’s always going to be hard, but guess what- you get to choose your hard. So why not choose the hard that’ll help make your health a priority?? You know what to do 😉💌
3416 hours ago
I’ve never posted a pix or video showing my lose skin full of stretch marks until now . I don’t need to sit here and make any excuses for myself BUT earlier i was reading some of the comments people leave on those who are trying to better themselves. A girl posted a pix of herself showing all of her and some of the comments were ugly , fat , you’re unhealthy, etc . Those who like to talk down to others instead of supporting and cheering them up are people who are so unhappy with themselves. If someone is trying to better themselves and working out as much as they can support them . Cheer them up . Help them . Stop with the body shaming. No one is perfect . We’re all trying to better ourselves one way or another . No matter how many sit ups or weight i lose my stomach will never be flat unless i decide to do a tummy tuck which I do consider doing because this lose skin irritates me and it’s so uncomfortable but AT LEAST I’m pushing myself forward to a better healthier me . #stopbodyshaming#nomore#notperfect#fullofcurves#stretchmarks#proud#notugly#imworthit#loved#bodybuilding#bodypositive#body#positivevibes#tummytuck#curves#workingout#toning#muscle#itsok#thatsme#likeitornot#idc#lifeisgood#ufc#boxingconditioning #❤️
The point of this art piece is not to sexualize the woman's body parts, but to embrace her body parts as /body parts/. To embrace that she is human (well, Aphrodite, but when relating to the audience, human), and to not shame her whatsoever. For women--and people of any gender identity--there is nothing wrong with loving yourself, and bracing whatever you have. There is no reason to be shamed for it. There is no reason to be shamed for it. Yes, I repeated that twice /on purpose/.
Not everything about body parts is sexual, it's time we mature as a society and community and realize that.
Nope, nothing. Emotional eating works. It soothes. It settles. It provides pleasure. There is NO SHAME in that. You do NOT need to stop emotional eating. Eating to make yourself feel better is actually a good and natural thing to do. I had high anxiety today and thought a certain type of food would make me feel a little better, and it did. No judgment needed. Without diet culture telling you that some food is “bad” or “too much” and that some bodies are “too big” - why would eating to make yourself feel better be a problem? It’s your body and you get to decide what to eat and how much and why. I’ve seen way too many “stop emotional eating” programs out there (and confession: yes, I’ve done some in the past) telling people to find other emotional coping tools IN ORDER TO STOP EMOTIONAL EATING. This is so backwards and damaging❗️By all means, use other coping tools IF THEY WORK BETTER or IN ADDITION and IF YOU HAVE ACCESS to them, but do it to feel better, for your emotional wellness and to be mentally healthy - NOT to eat less...because in case you don’t know where I stand, your joy, “okay-ness” and wellbeing are what matter - not your size💛💕
8859 hours ago
TBH I used to be TERRIFIED of dogs.
Now I believe they are sent from heaven.
Sad? Cuddle a pup.
Anxious? Cuddle a pup.
Happy? Cuddle a pup.
Hungry? Cuddle a pup. While eating some snacks.
Are you a puppy lover or were you a little chicken like me?
Protein bars. Today I made a little real talk in my story about this topic so I want to repeat myself shortly. Protein bars a a good possibility to eat proteins after doing for example sports to build up muscles. But that doesn't mean that you have to eat them every time you're doing sports. It's only a short way to reach your daily protein need provided that you haven't reached it yet. Otherwise is completely unnecessary. And it shouldn't become a duty to eat protein bars if you're craving chocolate or sweets. This isn't what I call healthy eating behaviour. If you want to eat chocolate, eat it! Your body tells you to eat it and this not only to tease you. Then it's a sign that your body has a lack of sugar and fat and it's a important purpose. These nutritions are necessary for a working body, so hear at your cravings! Stay strong! 💕