Self-Love is life changing/saving medicine, that’s free and accessible to everyone, always! Try taking some today, take as much and as often as you need and see how you start to feel! Start small, start with trying out some self like if you need and eventually in time it will evolve into self-love. Intention is everything and it will pay off, I promise 💖🦄🌼🌿🌈💜
9253820 February, 2019
Exhale. Writing this post brought up so much for me. It still does. I don't know if there is truly ever a point in our life where we ever feel *fully* enough. I think that's more the norm that most of us talk about.
Becoming enough is such a unique and sensitive process that get's infiltrated by so many of our experiences - what others have told us about ourselves, how the world has treated us, and most importantly, what we have internalized from all of those things. There is such a universal wound at the centre of all human experience, and that is the wound of not being enough.
It was super hard for me to talk about this in my own therapy. Tears would always well up, sometimes sobbing. It's a topic that touches so deeply in my core. It's taken me a long time to be able to move through these different layers in the image above - and often times I feel I move back and forth between them.
But what if I told you that you are enough simply by being here? I know it's hard to believe sometimes, but what if that could be true? What if your worth is beaming out all around you, and it's just a matter of time before you see its radiance? I hold that possibility in my mind and heart, for myself, and all of us 💗
It's not easy being human. No matter how many tools, and strategies, and self help books we acquire, it does not eliminate our experience of suffering. Those things can sometimes help us to feel more safe and comfortable when we're feeling overwhelmed. But the truth is, we still don't get to escape the very real and raw experience of what it means to be human in a sometimes very painful, confusing, and isolating world.
Even as a therapist, I don't get to escape this. In fact, as a therapist I'm often pretty hard on myself and expect that I should just be fine all the time. I have to give myself constant reminders that I'm also only human and have my own fare share of flaws and vulnerabilities and tender parts.
So, in case you're having one of those days yourself, I just wanted to speak up and let you all know that there are days when we feel we can't seem to do anything to feel better, to "manage" our feelings, or to even be "mindful" enough. And that's totally okay. We can't do this growth thing 100% all the time. Healing is far from perfect, it's meant to be messy. And being in our own mess often brings us the deepest clarity.
Allowing. Sitting with the emptiness, the numbness and my scattered soul. Feeling the void, feeling the fear, the space, the uncertainty, the anxiety, the loss. Allowing myself to soften, to listen, to trust, to understand, to question, to hurt, to feel, to cry, to heal. 💖 This has been me for a little while now, since getting sick. It forced me to look at myself and where I was, what I was carrying, what I was avoiding, how I was treating myself and what it was doing to my body and being. I’ve been making self-love and care a conscious choice and priority and I just wanted to remind you, you can too. Sending so much love your way 🥰💕🦄🌸🌿🦕🔮🌼💜 p.s I’ve still been working away and the store re-opening is about two weeks away! So excited 🎉
Mental Health is a real issue. It affects us all. Living with it is a daily challenge. Our babies can be one of our biggest supports and help us get through the toughest of days. Losing them is beyond a loss and the hole left can easily be filled with more depression. It’s a battle to get through each day with only their memory. @kathshome you are special and strong - and you are loved around the world. Thinking of you every day, but especially today Doffen’s birthday. Live each day @in_doffens_memory 🙏💗🐶💗🙏
Does anyone else get joy in picking their clothes in the morning?
I love playing with the colours, patterns and textures.
Colour and the clothes we wear have an impact on our emotional wellbeing.
I believe to operate at our best, we need to have the correct balance of all the rainbow colours in our energetic system.
Alcohol can help you fall asleep quickly, but once your eyes are closed the quality of your sleep can be badly affected 👎😴
Drinking before bed can: ❌ Interrupt your circadian rhythm: alcohol affects the normal production of chemicals in the body that triggers sleepiness.
❌ Block your REM sleep: the most restorative type of sleep.
❌ Aggravate breathing problems: you can be more prone to snoring and sleep apnea.
By accepting that there are some factors and events in my life that are outside of my control, I can focus my energy on what I can control and how I can (re)act to what is happening to me. Controlling my life is about adapting to what is happening in a flexible and energetic way. (drawing @positivelypresent)
Such a long mom day!!! And my hair😂. One of my friends used to say you could guess my mood by looking at how crazy my hair was. I made it through the day and was able stay nice and patient with my kids. Today my secret weapon was my all natural form of energy!!! I seriously love this ENERGY to get me through the hangry,homework, multitasking, dinner making time of day. I’ve stopped drinking the occasional soda as I’ve been healing my gut microbiome!! And this natural form of energy is grounding and focusing and so much better for me. I’m hoping for a better hair day tomorrow 😉. #runningaround#momlife#whodoestheirhair#energy#focus#patience
If Change is the only constant...why do we accept "facts" or "truth" do they not also change?
Historically how many times have we proven facts or truths once accepted, to now be false? I think we are ignorant, arrogant, and limiting our potential for improvement by accepting things the way they are. Nothing would advance if we just accepted everything, and didn't try to challenge the current view...the normal that society has accepted. So why do we condemn, bully, torment, those who are different, or see things differently. These are also the people who will bring new technologies, advancements, improvements to us all. I would rather be labeled as strange and different and not normal at all. At least then I can say I was brave enough to try to find another way. So here is to all of those people out there who are different, weird, strange, outcasts, you are the people who are strong enough to make changes. Everyone should thank you!
I dont think anyone out there will say "the world is perfect just the way it is" and please if you believe this lets have a chat...So why not nurture and support people who dont fall into whatever defined role in society you think they should? Good for them for standing up and being brave because where would we be without them?
What does freedom mean to you? To me this was #freedom , standing on the top of a mountain, naked. Not only freedom from my clothes, coz boy it was hot. But freedom from my self-consciousness. To me freedom is that, truly embracing who you are. When you do this, you connect with this crazy inate sense of inner-confidence. An inner-confidence that recognises there are no rules. 👌
Of course it’s easier said than done, right? But here’s my top tip- fake it until you make it. The more acts of inner-confidence you do, the more your mind will believe it & the more free you will feel. I’m not saying you need to get naked in public 😉 But do things that represent #confidence to YOU. Maybe it’s asking your boss for a pay rise, or just simply going somewhere on your own, or signing up for that course you’ve been wanting to do. Whatever it is, do it. And then do another thing. And keep practising like that. #valueyourself#valueyourmind#mindset#trusttheprocess
2511 hour ago
#INTENTIONS aka kick up the butts 🍑 What's your current intention/s? Big or small? I'd like to know! Mine are at the end of this post 🤗
I like this technique because it's measurable and non-intimidating. It can be used by anyone, no matter where in life you are. Even if you're at the darkest depths of a depression, you can still set small intentions for each day to build yourself up and feel amazing.
The first thing to work out is what's your learning style? I definitely like writing things down, and I'm experimenting with saying things outloud...but this can be uncomfortable and harder to grasp. Some people need pictures and vision boards. You do you 😉
So my intentions change and adapt all the time as they should, depending where I'm at, but this past week mine have gone like this: 🧘♀️Practise yoga daily
🍉Eat 3 decent meals a day
😇Set and maintain my personal boundaries i.e when it comes to alcohol/partying (no more than 2 drinks on a night out)
🧠Get 30 mins a day of work on Brain Gains or neurology studies done
💨Breathe through feelings of self-doubt when they pop up
Children easily "fall" in and out of moods which is very normal.
One of the most important things you can do for a child is to work on strengthening your relationship. Build a rapport where it would be easy for them to trust you and share thier concerns.Try to build empathy and understanding by putting yourself in their shoes. Listen to then without judgement or bias and not trying to 'fix' them.
You might be frustrated that they seems down and irritable a lot of the time and doesn’t seem to be doing much of anything to help themselves, they might even avoid things they used to enjoy and retreat to be by themselves.