Typically we think of depression as something for the depressive and the therapist to deal with. But it affects not just the sufferer, but their friends, their loved ones and their wider community. So really, it’s an issue that needs to be managed, and understood, by everyone. What I’m trying to do is to explain depression so that the non-depressive, be it a close friend or family member, can best understand what is happening, and how they can effectively deal with it.
Don’t ask ‘why people are you depressed?’ and get frustrated if there is no clear answer. There is almost never a clear answer, sometimes there is no answer, it is incredibly complicated and every case of depression is different.
I know that there are 350 million people that experience depression worldwide according to the World Health Organization – but I’m likely to feel like I’m the only one.
Because depression, for the most part, is incredibly exhausting, I’m spending a lot of mental energy simply trying not to succumb to negative thoughts. Even very basic tasks like getting out of bed or preparing a meal can sometimes feel incredibly taxing. Consider what it feels like to be stuck in quicksand, this is how moving through a depressive episode can often feel.
We know this feeling: we're going about the day, keeping busy, and feeling pretty a-ok. However, later, when we lie down, rest our head on the pillow and close our eyes, BAM! We're suddenly hit by a wave of thoughts, feelings, and memories.
Image description: Illustration on a white background, featuring two line drawings of a stylised person. The left-hand side of the image is titled 'AWAKE', and shows the person standing upright. They seem to be hollow and are filled up to the chest with an orange liquid. This liquid is labelled 'feelings'. The person is saying 'I am ok!' The right-hand side of the image is titled 'ASLEEP', and shows the person lying down with their head on a pillow. Because they are now lying down, the orange liquid - labelled 'feelings' - has now tilted and entered the head of the person. They are now saying 'I am not ok'. The artist of this image is @howdoyouadult -
Here are some positive sayings I found on Pinterest. Alone, they’re pretty benign. But for someone who is really struggling they can sting. I translated them into some different variations that I think still inspire hope, but are validating. What do you think?
A follower said to me yesterday “you just don’t get it”
I was thrown back from this comment… It made me confused.
Yes, I am recovered from anxiety. Yes, I do not get panic attacks anymore.
But that does not mean that I forgot my past.
I seem happy now when I go live or post pictures but guys there was a time when I could not GET OUT OF BED. I had nothing. I felt hopeless and helpless.
The panic attacks controlled me, they were the forefront of EVERY SINGLE THOUGHT I HAD.
I was not living, I was living waiting to die.
I had agoraphobia- I got to the point where leaving the house was near impossible. I was so scared of anything and everything. Once my anxiety got to its worst I was having anxiety over having anxiety. I was always waiting and anticipating a panic attack.
Every single day I felt like I was dying, every single day I felt scared.
Every single day I struggled with dizziness, heart palpitations, weird vision, tingling feelings in my arms and legs, headaches, feeling of “I am about to pass out”, shortness of breath, chest pain, stomach pain, and more. I spent my days googling trying to just figure out WHAT IS THIS. Never believing a single doctor who was screaming at me “you are okay it is anxiety”. Because how could something this strong and powerful be just in my head? It seems impossible.. they must be forgetting something? Right? Right?
WRONG. I wanted so badly to just find an answer. Every day searching for an answer as to why but never looking deep Into “how can I help myself”. I never took steps towards recovery until I got to my worst. I just expected to immediately heal. Wake up one day and it all be gone. I set myself up for failure expecting a light to just switch.
Take the steps. Don’t give up. But also, do not forget that just because someone is smiling that they have not been there before. •
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One of my all time favourite food stuffs.
I've been denying myself them (I had no dairy in my diet/I couldn't point them/they'd make me a fat balloon....you get the picture). I'm working through my 'sh*t list' (it's a thing in the book Just Eat It. I'm glad I did....I had a satisfying portion and it was DELICIOUS ❤
Here is my day 159 of raising awareness about PTSD. Otherwise known as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
The average number of veteran and serving suicides has gone down from 22 per day to 20 per day... Still 20 too many... But we are making a difference.
Here is my Day 159 of #22pushupchallenge Helping to raise awareness of #ptsd related #suicide and #mentalhealthissues in our #exservicemen and #veterans and in the wider #community Also, suicide is the biggest #killer of men under the age of 50 in the U.K. AND 75% of all suicides go undiagnosed There were 4820 suicides in the U.K. last year alone!!! THIS CANNOT CONTINUE!!! #letscheckonafriend#itsoktotalk Please text "PTSD22" to 70004 to donate £5 to @combatstress to help veterans with mental health issues in the U.K. Please text "SSAFA £3" or “SSAFA £5” or “SSAFA £10” to 70755 to donate to @ssafa_armedforcescharity to help ex-servicemen and their #families here in the U.K🇬🇧SAMARITANS 116 123, VETERAN CRISIS HELPLINE 0800 138 1619 MILITARY MENTAL HEALTH 0800 323 4444🇬🇧 🇺🇸VETERAN SUICIDE CRISIS HELPLINE 1-800-273-8255 OPTION 1🇺🇸 🇦🇺AUSTRALIAN NATIONAL SUICIDE HELPLINE 13 11 14🇦🇺 Please go follow these awesome people as they help others every day.
Thought I’d say hi and introduce myself as I have so many new people following. 👋 ~I’m Jen, I’m 35 and live in a small town not far from Brighton. ~I live with my husband Gary, our two children, Carrot and Chloe the mice🐁(Chloe is a naked mouse!), Nibbles and Zelda the rabbits 🐇 and Oscar the ginger cat! 🐈 ~The Spotted Toad began after a very bad time with my mental health. I wanted something positive to come from something so dark. I never thought it would grow like it has! 🐸 ~I love colour, it makes me happy! Wearing colour is even better, pink glittery Dr Martens are my faves!!!! 🥾 ~My best film is The labyrinth! ~I love bright happy socks 🌈 🧦 .
Thank you so much everyone for ordering, liking and sharing my work. It honestly means more than you know to me! I hope that every person who has received one of my boxes of positivity has smiled when they opened their happy post. Keep smiling rainbow people 🐸 🌈 . #meettheartist#meetthemakers#makersofinstagram#mentalhealthwarrior#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealth#introducing#intro#recovery#etsy#etsyshop#etsysellersofinstagram#etsyseller#thisisme
I hadn’t really shared much about myself on this account up until now and I’m still not going to go into too many details, I just wanted to start being a little more open as it is okay to talk. And I need to realise that too.
My mental health started to slip over summer. I’m not really sure what triggered it but fast forward a few months and in November after being back under the help of secondary care with the NHS, I had all of my mental health history dragged up again. It was at this point I received a diagnosis that petrified me if I’m being honest. I’d had the words depression thrown at me before. An eating disorder. Anxiety... but these two words... I’m not ready to talk about them yet... I still just need time to process things.
I know it’s just a label but for me, it was the lack of support that should have come with that particular diagnosis that freaked me out. It was the difficulties I had accessing support when I was younger as I seemed too ‘complex’ but this started to explain things. It was the fact that this can be known to cripple people but I’m still struggling to access adequate services to help.
Fast forward a few more months and yes I have slipped further. I am trying though. I know they’re not a ‘cure’ but I have incredible friends, a loving family. I’m not overwhelmed by university for like the first time in my life and I’m making more positive steps to better myself - like drawing these quotes.
I really strongly believe in quotes like these because I think fundamentally when you’re in the depths of despair, hope is really all you have left.
One day I will look back on this period of my life and just be thankful that I kept going. And yes there will be another day when I’m not okay, but each time I get through these low periods I believe I’ll be better equipped to get through the next. I know I’m not alone in this and for anyone who needs it, I am here to talk. As cliche as it sounds things do always get better, no matter how low you get. You can’t stay that way forever. Time is one of the greatest healers, so I hope you can start trusting that and things work out for you soon 🧡💜💚💙💛
Let’s take a moment and realize that some of us, struggle daily. Life is hard. Sometimes just walking, talking, thinking, breathing is so physically & mentally difficult that the thought of STRUGGLING one more time precipitates the thought of ending the struggle. Boy do I know. For some reason, only the Universe knows, my struggles helped one person. Also you perpetually happy people, how do you it? Meth right? Is it meth? #ironman#ironmanmiller#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealth#helpingothers#bodybuilding#share#shareyourstory